I am so angry right now, I can hardly see straight.
Mikro has been taking an art class that he really loved. Lately, he winds up coming out of the class to find me upset or in tears, He has become the target of a bunch of older mean girls.
Some of the nasty things to roll off their tongues include:
"You need psychological help."
"You have psychological problems."
"You have no life."
"You're a zero."
"What are you-- You're nothing,"
and a host of other petty insults, all directed at my kid, who is a nice little boy who was taught better than that. I think they target him because he's a homeschooler, and the rest of them go to public school or catholic school. I've told him to walk away from them, to tell them he doesn't like their behavior. And never to call names or hit (especially a girl) if there is any way to walk away.
Today was the no life/zero incident, and it was the straw that broke the camel's back. Mikro gets sent out to find me because he is upset. I had to pack up my laptop to go and talk to the teacher as requested. I pack up, start heading over, and Mikro comes over and tells me my presence is no longer required. He's going to sit in another room and use the computer.
So, the mean girls continue to make art and giggle together, while their victim is exiled. I'm done. I tell him to get his stuff and we're leaving. We get to the car, and I realize he does not have his project. So I send him to get it, and follow.
He goes in and I hear him telling the teacher he won't be back. So I poke my head in and say "I don't think it's productive for him to be here any longer."
Teacher: "He's not having fun anymore."
Me: "If you were tormented and tortured every week, I doubt you'd be having much fun either. I'm sorry, because he really enjoyed the class."
Teacher: "I've spoken to the girls. It's all in fun, they need to tone it down and he needs to be less sensitive."
Me: "He's done. I'm not going to bring my kid here every week to be bullied. Come on, Mikro, let's go home and have no life together. That was rude, girls, just rude." And off we went.
I am angry that the catty brats stayed and finished projects and were able to run off the nice kid. This is what always happens with bullies-- it is always made to be the victim's fault for being sensitive. No. It's the fault of the person acting like an jerk.
Just like women don't deserve it for being dressed in a sexy outfit, and black kids don't deserve it for wearing a hoodie, nice kids don't deserve to be abused because they aren't hardened to being treated like crap.
The fault in every single case lies with the abuser, not the victim.